CHAPTER 2

The Definitive
Guide to Online
Dating Profiles

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Mastering the Basics of a Masterful Online Profile

un bon site de rencontre forum Mastering the basics of an online profile requires mastering the first impression. The first two things any match will notice about your profile are your username, your dating headline and your profile picture (but not necessarily in that order). Your online dating username, also known as your handle, is how you identify yourself online. Think of it as a nickname of sorts—something that identifies you without divulging your actual name. Avoid a lazy first name and series of numbers type of username (JohnG2324, for instance). Instead, guys should opt for something that expresses their intellectual nature or their hobbies. Similarly, women should strive to create a profile username that is fun and flirtacious. In short, choose a username that showcases some aspect of your authentic personality.

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site de rencontre pour impuissant Lastly, where the basics are concerned, focus on showing off your best self via your profile picture. Yes, it’s true: a picture is worth a thousand words. If we’re honest with ourselves, it’s usually a potential match’s picture that determines whether or not we’ll invest the time it takes to read a profile. Snap judgments might not be fair, but they’re a part of online dating. So make the most of yours!

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chat sexe s ete And, for men especially, avoid the selfie. Have a friend take a pic instead, giving you the chance to take a quality photo in good lighting. Preferably, the majority of your profile pictures will show you being social and out with friends. For ladies, there is a bit more grace for the selfie, but still avoid including a bathroom selfie at all costs.

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Know the Message You Want to Convey to a Potential Match

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oekraïense prostituees It’s easy to fall into the thesaurus trap: “I’m loyal, outgoing, adventuresome, and thoughtful.” Think about what that really tells a potential date: nothing! Because our own definitions of words like “loyal” and “adventuresome” can vary from somebody else’s definitions, using a list of words like this tells someone, who’s never met you, nothing at all about who you are or what you value in a relationship. So instead of telling, show: “I’m the guy who grabs an umbrella and a tire jack at 2:00 a.m. when a friend calls,” or “My passport has six stamps—ask me which ones—but is still missing France and Barbados.”

Making the Profile Memorable

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meeting rencontre fr Plenty of people find it difficult to be funny. To simplify the process, think about what it is you do and make a clever joke out of it. For example, if you are in graduate school, fill out a "What You Do" section with something like "Going to grad school and defeating my arch-nemesis by the name of Student Loans." This little touch of humor will go a long way to help you stand out from matches who are tired of reading dry online dating profiles devoid of life and sparks of creativity.

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Who Are You, Really?

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Make a Profile With Intent

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restaurant rencontre nantes Your real-world meet up "call to action" should be included near the end of the profile. Consider adding something like "If you like what you've read, send me a message and let's grab a drink (or, insert favorite dating activity here) and see where life takes us." This will cue readers in — even if subconsciously — that you intend to meet in person.

rencontre jeune de 15 ans Following these essential pieces of profile advice will provide a significant overhaul to your dating profile, which ought to lead to more targeted matches that are a better fit for you as a result. And, remember, one in five daters needs help with their profile. So pay it forward and help a friend's profile improve with the advice in this guide.