Rule #1: Preparing Yourself: Ban those
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Rule #2: Preparing Your Mind: It
doesn’t have to be complicated.

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Rule #3: Preparing the Table. It’s not
what you say; it’s what you ask.

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Rule #4: Preparing for the Second
Date: When it’s time to say “goodnight.”

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But is a second date really in the cards for me?

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Above all, be sure to follow one simple piece of advice: Be yourself.

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Final thoughts on that first meeting:

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Oh, yeah…before we forget: TURN OFF YOUR CELL PHONE!!!!!